The Secret Ingredient for Personal and Professional Success

Dentists working with a personal coach is a concept relatively new to dentistry. As one of only a handful of dentists in the U.S. who are both practicing dentists and trained professional personal and business coaches, I can tell you that a dentist choosing to work with a professional coach is a rare phenomenon. Why would a dentist use a professional coach instead of a practice management consultant, therapist, industrial psychologist, financial planner, or any one of a number of other professionals to help them and their practice? The answer seems to elude many, so I’ll tell you the story of a young dentist who did choose to work with a professional coach – and what happened as a result.
Meet Dr. Bob
As a young dentist of 34, Dr. Bob was finally the owner of his own dental practice – on paper at least. The world was at his fingertips; he was ready to settle in, work hard, be his own leader and enjoy the fruits of his labors and training. He had been an associate for the past seven years, and he felt he’d paid his dues to have the chance to own and run his own practice. He was studying with the best clinicians, learning how to do better comprehensive dentistry and seeing his practice grow bigger with new patients. Life was good.
Then tragedy struck. Less than nine months into ownership of the practice, his partner of the past 7 years committed suicide; Bob was in shock. Instantly, Dr. Bob was $600,000 in debt to his partner’s estate for the practice sale, with no way out of the contract. No, Dr. Bob had done his homework for the practice purchase, having the practice properly valued by an expert, and using an experienced lawyer for the transaction and setting up the corporation, among many other things. Unfortunately, his partner had a chronic disease that prevented him from purchasing a “key man” life insurance policy in case of his death. Additionally, he had a contract that did not allow for renegotiation for the purchase of the practice, something he had conceded to close the deal. Of course, had Dr. Bob known what would have happened, he would have never agreed to such a contract. But, hindsight is always 20-20, isn’t it? Our young dentists was stuck in a really bad way.
For several months, Dr. Bob worked 70-hour weeks seeing patients, and he knew that couldn’t last forever; there was going to be a breaking point somewhere down the road. He hurriedly hired an associate to help with the work; that turned out to be a mistake. After letting the associate go in less than a year, he knew he needed to do something, but he just didn’t know what. The stress of it all was eating him up, affecting his marriage, friends, employees and patients. He knew that something needed to change – he just didn’t know what or how it needed to happen.
A year after his partner’s death, Dr. Bob finally took his first week off, something he didn’t want to do because of the debt he owed. He combined the “vacation” with his family with a dental conference. On the program was a speaker who talked about financial planning for dental practices, so he thought he would attend. Bob was looking for guidance.
The speaker gave sound advice on the usual financial decision-making process, and after listening to him for about 30 minutes of the two hour program, Dr. Bob knew for sure he needed immediate help with his money management, so he left the seminar, determined to work with someone who could give him direction.
As Dr. Bob later found out much later, money concerns can be what bring dentists to the point of asking for help. Dr. Bob got the help he needed and a huge load was lifted off his shoulders. Several months passed, and then this nagging feeling that something wasn’t right returned. Little did Bob know, but he had just struck gold: he was now at the point of finding answers that would serve him longer than any short-term business solutions which attracted his interest. Dr. Bob had discovered that the answers he was looking for wasn’t from the outside, they were on the inside – his inside. Serendipitously, Dr. Bob was referred to personal coaching, something he knew very little about, but agreed to investigate.
As Dr. Bob began working with his coach, he began being prodded to investigate his thoughts and feelings more deeply and to understand more clearly his needs, concerns, and values. This was a radical departure from anything Bob had experienced before! Yet, he was enjoying the journey; a sense of serenity was showing up more and more. His staff wondered why he was changing. Was he on drugs? Had he joined a cult? Dr. Bob seemed less apprehensive and more approachable; he was even taking vacations now, something he had been afraid to do before, among many other things. Patients responded warmly to him, and despite the looming debt, Dr. Bob had the focus and determination to make it all work out.
Out of Dr. Bob’s personal growth came a natural growth of his business acumen. Dr. Bob was now able to pinpoint where he had concerns and get the appropriate help – instead of asking for the right help from the wrong person.
Dr. Bob was also becoming a better leader. As he was becoming more in touch with his own feelings and concerns, patients, employees, family members, and friends found Dr. Bob to talk to about their own concerns and problems. Dr. Bob was beginning to experience a sense of peace and fulfillment that he had wanted for many years, even long before his dental school days. Dr. Bob now knew that nothing would derail him – he was free at last.
The coach’s role
Unlike practice management consultants who give sound advice and strategies to handle business decisions, a personal or “life” coach integrates the “who” of a person with the “what” they are doing – no matter the person’s goals.
As a practicing dentist who has worked with practice management consultants, I applaud the vital role they play in what we as dentists do from day-to-day in our practices. There is no doubt in my mind that my practice wouldn’t be what it is today without the help of a practice management consultant.
But what about all of the “intangibles” of being in practice – even just living – brings to us? Who do we talk to about the million other pieces of the puzzle that being in business for ourselves, dealing with patients and staff members day after day, and all of the other concerns, issues, and questions that we face daily? What professional falls into that category?
Historically, dentists looked to each other for support, morale boosting, camaraderie – something almost missing from our profession these days. Those intangible, hard-to-describe elements have a huge impact on our feelings of success and fulfillment as dentists. They all but elude us in these days of perceived competition, recessed economy, increased threat of malpractice, and inability to find qualified employees. It seems that our feelings, concerns, and emotions end up taking a back seat to working in our practice each day.
In reality, the connection between “who” we are as dentists and our feelings of success and fulfillment come about when we are able to reconnect to our identity as human beings, when we acknowledge our wants, needs, and concerns, and begin to develop this relationship with ourselves that has all been but lost in today’s business world. This connection to our “inner self” is essential, and a personal coach is most helpful in navigating that quest.
Coaching as a cutting-edge resource
Professional coaching is a resource available to dentists who want to have an edge in their life and their practice. Whether you want to learn to say “no” to your limited time schedule, clean out the clutter out in your life, reconnect with what’s most important to you, find meaning in your work, or more balance in your life, a personal coach can help you do it.
By now, most dentists have heard of coaching, but many really don’t know how it can help them. For many dentists, coaching may seem to be reserved for CEOs of large companies. Truthfully, more than 25% of the Fortune 500 companies now utilize coaches to assist their executives, CEOs, and managers. (By the way, did you know you are a CEO?) Why do you think this is?
According to a study completed at The Harvard Business School by Kotter and Heskett, performance-enhanced cultures (those organizations utilizing coaches for their executives and top-level managers) showed a greater than four-fold improvement in business success among all parameters.
Coaching originally began about “life designing” – situations that ranged from lifestyle to career transitions. From there, the coaching model began finding applications from business turnarounds to profitability, from life/work balance to creativity, and many, many more. Coaches who work in business environments assist clients to improve communication skills with their clients and staff, to create a larger picture of their practice, and to be a private sounding board for ideas, frustrations, and goals of the client. Personal coaches work with clients looking to enhance and enrich their personal life, find balance and fulfillment, improve relationships, among many others. Articles about coaching have appeared in magazines that range from Time Magazine to Real Simple, newspapers from USA Today to The Wall Street Journal, and radio and TV shows nationally and locally.
Coaching and other forms of growth and development
Coaching has been compared to older, more widely known models of personal and professional development, but coaching is really something unlike any of these. Let’s look at the most common comparisons to coaching:
• Unlike mentoring, the coach has no personal agenda for the client. The coach’s basic objective is to assist the client in designing a life that is consistent with the client’s values, goals, and dreams.
• Unlike consulting, the coach is not the “expert” who tells the client what to do. Coaching views the client as the expert in determining what are the things most important to the client, and then supports the client in staying true to what he or she really wants. Coaches assist clients in finding their personal truth, then living it.
• Unlike therapy, coaching is not concerned with resolving past issues. The coaching model is forward-looking and action-oriented. The ultimate objectives are to identify what the client wants, determine the steps to get there, and act on it.
Coaching is not a “one size fits all” proposition. Coaches come from every type of professional background, including business, sales, medicine, law, psychology, human resource … and even dentistry. Professional coaches participate in some type of training program. These programs vary, and not all are accredited by the International Coach Federation, which also enforces the standards for the practice of coaching.
Coaches can find themselves working in a niche, a specialized area of coaching, either by training or interest, or by previous background and experience. Coaches can specialize in areas as diverse as ADD, health and fitness, non-profit organizations, and organizational development. If you’re looking for someone who understands what you face in your practice from day to day, coaches are available who are themselves practicing dentists and professional coaches.
Working with your Own Coach
Dentists typically find themselves consumed with running their practice and dealing with the unlimited demands that seem to surface daily. Working with a coach, dentists have the unusual opportunity to work on their business, instead of inside it. They have the opportunity to reflect on what they’re doing, to identify their interests and values, and have a silent, objective partner – like having your own private board of directors.
Because most dentists have a solo practice, they’re constantly second-guessing what they’re doing, trying to identify market trends, trying to keep up with changing technology and knowledge, hiring, firing, managing – you name it! Add a little government or other third party intervention, and it’s overwhelming to most. Attending practice management programs, workshops, and seminars help, but the underlying message they are often left with is “Do it like me”.
Thus, many dentists struggle for years trying to emulate other dentists, and nearly always without success. Coaching draws on the client’s knowledge, intuition, innate wisdom, individual experience and skills, using those aspects to assist them to develop the practice of their own dreams – not someone else’s dreams. A coach may enhance those client’s skills with further skills training, such as relating, listening, advising, strategizing and the like. The possibilities are practically endless, and a dentist may choose to work with a coach for business or personal reasons – usually both.
What makes coaching so effective is due to many aspects inherent in the coaching process. For example, accountability is critical. Once you’ve identified what you want for your practice or for yourself, a coach assists you in keeping on track. Coaching is also highly valuable because it gives you someone else’s perspective – someone you trust because he or she knows you and your goals – which in turn opens possibilities that may have been hidden. A coach is a great sounding board for what’s working and what’s not … extremely valuable to dentists who are mostly isolated from one another.
On a more personal level, because many dentists are so successful in the eyes of the public, they typically have no one to talk to about their own reality. What good is it to own your own practice, make good money, and be involved in the community, if you really aren’t happy or having fun?
Who is that “Dr. Bob” guy you mentioned?
That “Dr. Bob” guy was me. In fact, I ultimately became a coach because of the kindness and support I received as a client of a coach and because my coach started me on a journey of personal development that continues today. It is from those terrifying days immediately following the death of my partner I began an incredible discovery of who I am and where I’m going. It’s a journey I now have the privilege of taking others on – hopefully not after the fire I went through.
For me, I lucked into finding a coach, because when I began working with one, coaching was barely recognized as a profession. These days, coaching is a buzzword used by almost everyone in the helping professions, but trained professional coaches are a wholly different concept.
For you, all you have to do to find a professional coach is ask.
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